My Hot Take as a Therapist: Therapy Doesn’t Work
Therapy doesn't work unless you do. This phrase encapsulates a fundamental truth about the therapeutic process: meaningful change requires effort and dedication from the client outside of the therapy sessions. While therapy can provide valuable insights, tools, and support, it is ultimately up to the individual to apply what they have learned in their everyday lives.
Therapy is Collaborative
Clients who come to therapy expecting their therapist to 'fix' them without actively participating in the process may find themselves feeling stuck or disappointed. Therapy is not a quick fix or a passive experience where the therapist does all the work. It is a collaborative journey where both the therapist and the client work together towards the client's goals.
Therapy is Engaging
Engaging in therapy means being open to self-reflection, exploring uncomfortable emotions, challenging negative thought patterns, and trying out new behaviors. This work often continues between sessions as clients practice new skills, reflect on insights gained in therapy, and confront obstacles that arise.
Change Happens Outside of Sessions
The importance of clients doing the work outside of therapy cannot be overstated. Real change happens when therapy insights are integrated into daily life. For example, someone working on managing their anxiety may need to practice relaxation techniques regularly, challenge anxious thoughts when they arise, and gradually face feared situations.
Therapy is A Guide
Taking ownership of your growth outside of therapy empowers you to become an active participant in your own healing journey. It fosters self-reliance, resilience, and a deeper understanding of yourself. It also allows the therapeutic work to have a lasting impact beyond the confines of the therapy room.
Remember that the effectiveness of therapy hinges on your willingness to invest time, energy, and effort into your personal growth. Embrace the idea that therapy is a partnership, and by doing the work both within and outside of sessions, you can create meaningful and lasting change in your life.
